‘I am taking my child to a therapist, or I am consulting a counsellor’‘
How would you interpret this statement? Most people, come with a notion that you see a psychiatrist / shrink / counsellor / therapist only when you are suffering from a serious mental disorder. In plain simple language if you are ‘pagal’. Though I seriously feel that every household needs a family counsellor more than a family doctor these days. Not cause we are insane in some form or the other. But because almost everyone of us, once or many times in a lifetime need some serious unbiased advise and counselling. (and we know most of the people around are kinda of biased in different percentages including some real close once). At times we just want a non prejudiced person to listen to us, even if he or she may not able to give a logical solution. Venting is half the problem solved.
However, going to a psychiatrist and seeking some kinda of advise is like a cardinal sin which is mostly remembered for ages even after the sin is done ie the sessions are complete. Its like the bad act of omen, the repercussions of which you carry till you die. Eg anytime and everytime you do something wrong the mistake is never forgiven cause ‘he/she is mental’ since she visited a psychiatrist once upon a time. And you slowly retrieve back into your shell instead of coming out of the problem for which you consulted in the first place. Slowly get used to the idea of being called eccentric and it doesn’t pinch you anymore. Infact its convenient after a while cause you can get away with a lot of things behind this veil.
Well we all know, with the stress levels increasing the situation is becoming bad to worse, no wonder we see a lot of teenage population hiding behind net, cause this is one place you can vent without getting named. Don’t we all have problems in our life, than whats wrong in going to a solution finder. And why do most ppl fake that their lives are perfect. I think I am better off being an introvert than being vulnerable in this kinda situation.
How would you interpret this statement? Most people, come with a notion that you see a psychiatrist / shrink / counsellor / therapist only when you are suffering from a serious mental disorder. In plain simple language if you are ‘pagal’. Though I seriously feel that every household needs a family counsellor more than a family doctor these days. Not cause we are insane in some form or the other. But because almost everyone of us, once or many times in a lifetime need some serious unbiased advise and counselling. (and we know most of the people around are kinda of biased in different percentages including some real close once). At times we just want a non prejudiced person to listen to us, even if he or she may not able to give a logical solution. Venting is half the problem solved.
However, going to a psychiatrist and seeking some kinda of advise is like a cardinal sin which is mostly remembered for ages even after the sin is done ie the sessions are complete. Its like the bad act of omen, the repercussions of which you carry till you die. Eg anytime and everytime you do something wrong the mistake is never forgiven cause ‘he/she is mental’ since she visited a psychiatrist once upon a time. And you slowly retrieve back into your shell instead of coming out of the problem for which you consulted in the first place. Slowly get used to the idea of being called eccentric and it doesn’t pinch you anymore. Infact its convenient after a while cause you can get away with a lot of things behind this veil.
Well we all know, with the stress levels increasing the situation is becoming bad to worse, no wonder we see a lot of teenage population hiding behind net, cause this is one place you can vent without getting named. Don’t we all have problems in our life, than whats wrong in going to a solution finder. And why do most ppl fake that their lives are perfect. I think I am better off being an introvert than being vulnerable in this kinda situation.
10 comments:
Seeing a shrink definitely helps.
The very process of getting non-judgmental-without-raising-eyebrows-in-disapproval advice, though you have to pay a neat packet for it, is therapeutic.
But the kind of stigma attached to it is immense, to say the least.
Eyebrows are raised, smirking looks exchanged, whispers and nudges do the rounds - if I mention that I once saw a shrink to clear out my mussed / messed up head.
All said and done, I am all for going to a shrink.
It works.
I should know.
It did for me.
Flipside, just came through ur blog.....Wonderful thought...It is not so easily accepted today if someone sees a Shrink....
And the lady above(Write here write now)is so so comfortable accepting the fact the she saw a shrink to clear her messed up head..Hats off to her....I mean, it takes something to accept it...WHWN Mam, if you get a chance do write a comment in continuation to my comment. I am really looking forward to learn something from you guys..Both of you are quite impressive.Must salute you for your confidence...Wish I had this kinda too...
Avantika
WHWN : babe you don’t belong from this country atleast your ideas don’t... but yes its therapeutic with repercussions.
Avantika : thanks... we all are evolving...
Flip Side: Yeah, I know that. Wanna run away to some other country? I cud do with a same-pinching weirdo pal;-)
Avantka: Well, what can I say? That you are very kind. Much too kind and generous with your words, I'd say.
Thanks a lot for considering WHWN Mam.This is the way I am....I am quite a humble person but I am termed as low on self-confidence..Being polite and humble is considered wrong these days...
I would definitely try and learn things from you as well as from Flipside...( ONLY IF YOU ARE READY TO HELP ME )
Vandana Mam : Read your blog too...Definitely an awesome thought process you have...Apologies that I did not mention a comment on it..but will do....Tell me one thing is good to see a shrink ? How did you manage..I am scared to be termed as insane by people around me...Did'nt u face such things , wen u did so ? or u just dint tell anyone about it ? Please let me know..Need ur inputs here...
Regards,
Avantika
Avantika,
The name’s Vandana. And could you not call me Ma’am? I find it so quintessentially outmoded and detect a wee bit of sarcasm in it.
And I still think that you go overboard with your generosity index.
But anywhichway, I wish you well. We are all fighting our little / big battles.
Coping is the name of the game.
Good luck.
Thanks Vandana....Hope that sounds better to you, yeah ? But honestly it was just out of respect I was addressing you as Ma'am...Honestly there is'nt any underlying sarcasm hidden in it...and definitely respecting someone would never be outdated...
Generosity and humbleness is in my nature..thats the way I am :)
Certainly I agree..coping up is the key...I am still learning the art :)
Thanks a ton for consideration..
Regards,
Avantika
Yes, Vandana...did not hear nything from you...
-Avantika
At the risk of being branded a 'cynic,' Avantika, those who are humble and / or generous, do not go tom-tomming it or screaming from the rooftops. So frankly, your defence beats me.
But if that's the way you prefer to call yourself, who am I to 're-define' you. Righto?*
* We really aren't making any sane conversation here, so I may not reply and continue this trail commenting, Avantika. Ta!
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