Caste no bar, sex bar bar...

You never realise your own potential till you actually are cornered in a situation. And I didn’t realise it either that I had such a short fuse, or I could argue single handedly, with 99.99% of the ppl opposing me in a group. Today at our usual smoke break after lunch, we were just casually discussing about a gal in hr. when the topic of her full name came into discussion later on leading to oh she is from there and hence she belongs to this cast and this creed. I cant believe while we are on the threshold of 21st century where everybody takes pride in being so called ‘broadminded’ we still at the back of our mind believe in castes and all this nonsense. Cause its okay so long you just wanna have sex with a gal, but when it comes to marriage a upper class pandit wants to marry a pandit, a backward class will not get options other than his own class, unless it’s a love marriage and so on and so forth.
Why is it then caste no bar when it comes to having sex and fun. One should only go for gals from the upper class and not socialise with the normal backward class. And believe me this is not just a small town practice. It’s a bigger practice in metros and even with ppl living abroad. i have seen ppl from lower class when married into upper caste as they ‘fasaoed’ the guy, are always made to remember that she belonged from a lower strata of society. I can come up with ten thousand of such examples where I have seen the so called broader race following this age old belief.
And however, big feminist I may sound, this all the more shortens my list of approved guys and gals. Now the filters are more stringent.

Thursday, December 23, 2004

One of my earlier post, published once upon a time. Republished with no changes in the situation or connotation.

So convinient to be a guy
Guess wat a friend of mine told me today in my context “mere ko lag raha tha that I will make it convenient for myself, sharing everything with you the way I want and still not commit…..waisa nahi hota.” Its so convenient to be a guys no. You can choose to be however close you want to be with the gal and yet stay aloof whenever you wish to. Why do we gals come with so much of emotional baggage and restrictions and why is it so difficult for us to learn the tricks of the trade. I have had friends who have been able to ghumao guys however they wish to……wish could learn those traits. But I guess I m happy with whatever traits I have got so wat if its not been able to bear me any fruits so far but I m sure it will some day and that too for a long run. But believe me being a gal is tuff at times its like walking on a tight rope with so many temptations around.

Shrinking with a Shrink...

‘I am taking my child to a therapist, or I am consulting a counsellor’‘

How would you interpret this statement? Most people, come with a notion that you see a psychiatrist / shrink / counsellor / therapist only when you are suffering from a serious mental disorder. In plain simple language if you are ‘pagal’. Though I seriously feel that every household needs a family counsellor more than a family doctor these days. Not cause we are insane in some form or the other. But because almost everyone of us, once or many times in a lifetime need some serious unbiased advise and counselling. (and we know most of the people around are kinda of biased in different percentages including some real close once). At times we just want a non prejudiced person to listen to us, even if he or she may not able to give a logical solution. Venting is half the problem solved.
However, going to a psychiatrist and seeking some kinda of advise is like a cardinal sin which is mostly remembered for ages even after the sin is done ie the sessions are complete. Its like the bad act of omen, the repercussions of which you carry till you die. Eg anytime and everytime you do something wrong the mistake is never forgiven cause ‘he/she is mental’ since she visited a psychiatrist once upon a time. And you slowly retrieve back into your shell instead of coming out of the problem for which you consulted in the first place. Slowly get used to the idea of being called eccentric and it doesn’t pinch you anymore. Infact its convenient after a while cause you can get away with a lot of things behind this veil.
Well we all know, with the stress levels increasing the situation is becoming bad to worse, no wonder we see a lot of teenage population hiding behind net, cause this is one place you can vent without getting named. Don’t we all have problems in our life, than whats wrong in going to a solution finder. And why do most ppl fake that their lives are perfect. I think I am better off being an introvert than being vulnerable in this kinda situation.