The equator in life

Yesterday I was speaking to a colleague in office who is as old as me, only that she is not married. She was telling me that she doesn’t have many friends now, as most of them are married. That comment set my mind racing giving me a fodder for this rite up. I realised as you cross various milestones in your life your associations in life become more and more limited in number. When I was unmarried I had loads of friends both men and women. Plus I could any day make new ones without giving a second thought to it. Gender was never an issue so long I could tackle them properly. But as when you grow old family pressures of getting married starts building up. Some people are strong enough not to give in to those pressures of life. But normal people like us who have no option but get married. Soon realise that as soon as you take those seven full circles there is an imaginary line which is also formed between the people you associated with. Essentially now there are two kinds of people one married and one unmarried. Both of them don’t understand each other and there is like a huge generation gap between the two. A lot of things which were possible before seem to become impossible all of sudden e.g. things like socialising with men for me and vice versa for men. Now you haven’t been used to this divide when life divides you further that is when you have a kid. Now you are part of even smaller world which is a subset of married people. This divides you from those married couples who don’t have kids. So its now married people with kids vs without kids. Although this divide can be construed totally imaginary but it is stronger than the laxman rekha once build and this I can say through experience. Because it changes your whole perspective towards life. Your needs and wants and priorities shift now. With the one who are deprived of the kid having a least understanding of the change. But there is a change and a definite one. The divide slowly becomes wider and wider and wider till you don’t think you can bridge the gap. And decide to part ways cause none of the person in question understands. Both think its easier said than done and they are equally rite. However I wonder who is at fault. Didn’t I try hard enough or was there something genetically wrong with me. I am still introspecting.