It must have been love, but it's over now....

I had been thinking of riting this post since quite some time now. Is it normal to fall in love obsessively, and then fall out of it. I have heard that a relationship goes through a v shaped graph. But does one actually fall back in love with the same person, once he is out of it and with whom he has once been so madly in love with. Confusing right, all I am trying to figure out is it possible to ignite the same spark again, once lost.
Before I try and look for that answer, is it normal to fall out of love. What happens to the age old saying then ‘and they lived happily ever after…’. And how did our parents manage to spend so many years together without having one single extra marital, without failing to cross the forbidden line. You know what I mean right. How is it possible? What the ‘exceptional’ ingredient missing they had, which always kept the dish fresh. Is it cause:-
1. They never had sex before marriage. So obviously they had nothing to compare with. Plus anything done had a complete novelty to it and was a welcome pleasant surprise. So each day they had something new to discover. And by the time they realised that there was no discovery left, they had several other things on priority, rather than sex.
But why didn’t my mum tell me or give me all these reasons. Rather than that lame statement like good gals don’t have sex before marriage.
2. Our parents mostly had arrange marriage, so they had zilch expectations before entering an alliance. And that you know helps in overcoming a lot of problems. Its like a clean slate, where u can paint your own painting.
But then I have always believed that its better to marry a known devil than an unknown devil.
3. They used to live in joint or bigger families before, so the chances of getting bored with each other were comparatively less.
4. Today’s generation is abnormal. They are low on patience, tolerance, emotions and everything. We just want everything quick and if that doesn’t happen we start looking around for greener pastures, who has the time to wait and watch.
5. Wimmen were not so vocal about their feelings. They weren’t so independent either, to walk out of a marriage, unlike today.
But that isn’t completely wrong or is it.
You know I feel the thin line between right and wrong is slowly diminishing. But that is no way of justifying the problem. Especially when u are not at the receiving end. I mean the person who is still in love. I donno how to damage control it. Can anyone suggest me a way, for two things A) if its okay to be out of it, and that its not so immoral after all. B) how do u convey the other person that u are out of it, without hurting anybody’s sentiments.
For once I m not hopping from one relationship to the other, cause I am not in love with anybody. I think love is an over hyped feeling, which essentially does work like an aphrodisiac but its very short lived with loads of side-effects.
So why cant we live till its happily ever after, and not blame anyone from moving on, whenever that is. Its like the most dreadful feeling to convey that listen I am over you now, and can we be just friends, cause u don’t ignite that passion anymore. I know strong words, I wish it was as easier to say it and as it was typing over here.